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Yellow Flags to Watch Out For in an Abusive Partner

Yellow Flags to Watch Out For in an Abusive Partner

Contrast Between YELLOW & RED FLAGS of Abusive Partners

Categories of Abuse

Red Flags of Abusive Behavior

Potentially Problematic

Yellow Flags of Abuse

A need for the relationship to move quickly to next level.

I don't want this date to end.

Whatever your plans are for the rest of the week drop them cause I am taking you out.

I'm all you need so let's start dating exclusively.

We are so perfect together - why waste on time dating and not just move-in together or better yet get married.

I can’t believe we just met yesterday but I feel like I have known you forever.

Call me crazy but I think I am in love with you.

I have never felt this way before with anyone else.

I hate leaving you and I just want to spend every waking moment with you.

You are exactly what I have been looking for to spend the rest of my life with you.

History of family abuse and stereotypical gender views

I got smacked around growing up but that is how kids learn.

The head of the household is in charge and needs to use any means to keep everyone in line.

Sometimes my parents got into it - but who does not fight once in a while.

When Mom got mad and tried to hit Dad it made us laugh cause she was half his size.

Pattern of violence against prior intimate partners without show of remorse or acceptance of any wrongdoings.

My last partner constantly provoked me to the point I had no choice but to strike back.

My exes never appreciated me and just refused to listen.

It drove me insane when my ex constantly pushed all the wrong buttons until I would explode.

My past relationships ended because each of my exes cheated on me where I could not trust them.

You are nothing like my previous partner.

I don't believe you would ever provoke me on purpose.

I'm guilty of loving others too much which causes me to do silly things.

Lack of empathy

Oh stop your whimpering already - or I will give you something to cry about.

You're such a drama queen no wonder no one takes you seriously.

Who cares what you want.

I did not realize you are so sensitive about things.

You're such a delicate flower which is why I love you so much.

This hurt me more than you.

Excessive jealousy and


Where the hell have you been and what were you doing that prevented you from answering my call?

Don't you ever lie to me about where you are or with whom cause I always will find out.

I need you to always tell me where you will be at all times.

I better not find you meeting up with someone behind my back.

I will kill you if I find out you ever cheated on me.

You mean so much to me and I don't want anything bad happening to you when you are out without me.

You had me so worried sick when you did not respond immediately to my text or call.

Next time could you be a bit more considerate and just let me know that you are safe.

I don't trust some of your friends you hang out with.

Verbal / emotional / mental abuse including gaslighting their partner.

I cannot help it if you are too stupid to remember what I told you.

Who really cares what you think or feel.

Your opinion is worthless.

You are lucky I still bother to put up with someone as pathetic and disgusting as you.

I am the best thing that ever happened to you so don't you ever forget that!

You are so adorable when you get upset.

Aren't you lucky to have me around to always help you figure things out?

I realize sometimes my expectations might be too high but I know you will do better next time to not disappoint me again.

Holding a double standard - being highly critical of others while claiming self-righteous perfection.

My ex was a lazy, lying, cheating piece of work who got exactly what s/he deserved.

No one crosses me unscathed.

Don't worry I know you will try harder next time not to disappoint me.

I realize not everyone is perfect but aren't you glad I am not most people?

Need for isolating partner from external supports (e.g., family, friends, coworkers)

I don't like your family or friends because they are trying to break us up.

No you cannot go unless I can go with you.

Get off the phone and stop telling others about our private affairs.

You better be home when I get back.

Whenever you spend time with your family and friends we always end up fighting.

Don't you think you are old enough to make your own decisions without consulting with others about your problems?

You know I am always here for you to discuss things with.

You got to learn to trust me as I am the only one who has your best interest in mind.

Please cancel your plans I need us to have more one-on-one time to make our relationship stronger.

Exercising control and holding rigid/unrealistic expectations.

I forbid you to go out looking like that.

How dare you buy anything without checking with me first?

You don't get to eat that given you're so fat and ugly.

Would you mind changing as that outfit makes you look so sexy where I'm afraid someone will snatch you up.

How about you just wear that around me cause it gets me hot.

I think you should reconsider what you eat cause I need you to look attractive.

Blaming others for problems

Why are you constantly trying to provoke me?

You know what happens when you make me angry.

Wow you are full of surprises to get that promotion at work.

At my job bosses don't promote someone just on their looks.

Forcible confinement or restraining another person's movement in any way

Don't you dare walk away from me when I am speaking with you!

You better not leave this house while I am out.

I can't trust you so you leave me no choice but to take your car keys, your wallet and phone so you stay put as told.

I can’t have you leave feeling so upset.

Please stay here with me until we work things out.

It is better if I drive you so wait for me until I can come by to get you.

Threats of harm and injury to self and/or others

If I can't have you no one will.

The only way you will ever leave me is in a body bag.

If you ever leave me I will find you and kill you and anyone else who comes between me and you.

You better drop the charges against me or else.

You mean the world to me and I hate myself for hurting you.

You are the reason I get up every morning.

Life would not be worth living if I ever lost you.

I'm gonna kill myself if you don't come back to me.

I'd rather die than live without you.

Monetary Control / Financial Abuse

I am the sole breadwinner in this relationship and you will not have a career or work at a job.

How dare you buy something without checking with me first.

Your partner destroys or throws out something you bought.

You are not allowed to have a bank account, credit cards in your name, nor are you listed as a co-owner on any joint assets (e.g., family home, car, business, etc.)

You are given an allowance only when deemed worthy of it and must account for every nickel spent.

You do not get a say on how any money can be spent or invested.

I just want to take care of you so you don't have to work.

We should consult one another before buying anything to avoid straying from the budget.

It might be best if I just handled all of the household finances - that way you can focus all your time on other things that make you happy.

Let me do all the shopping as I really have a knack for buying quality items at the best price.

If you ever want to buy something just let me know and I will get it for you.

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Tuesday, January 18, 2022

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Wednesday, November 7, 2018

Breaking the Cycle of Addiction

Breaking the Cycle of Addiction 


1.) AWARENESS STAGE: Individual suspects their compulsion to engage in a particular activity is increasing - but they do not recognize that their addiction is becoming a problem.
2.) DENIAL STAGE: Individual suspects their addiction is starting to take a toll on various areas of their life - but they remain convinced that they are in control over their behavior and that they could quit at anytime if they so choose or decide to stop.
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Sunday, May 21, 2017

Scent and Odour Allergies - Nothing to Sneeze at

Scent and Odour Allergies - The Invisible Disability Many Still Fail to Accommodate

Some people report various degrees of sensitivities to a specific odour or scent following initial direct contact or secondary exposures. Such scent exposures can trigger various symptoms for those allergic to the scent's allergens which ranges in intensity and duration for the affected individual. 

Equally significant is the finding that similar to a peanut allergy, a person's allergic response to a particular scent allergen increases over time in severity following each subsequent exposure with even the smallest exposure level. 

Scent sensitivities can be moderate to debilitating for the suffer and can progress to including Anaphylaxis which if not attended to with immediate medical intervention can result in serious medical distress, critical injury including death.

Many also fail to realize that exposures to particular scents is not merely limited to direct contact to a scent or odor. Rather secondary exposures to the scent's allergens in the form of residue remaining in the air or left behind on various surface areas that the person may inadvertently come into contact with by inhaling or touching poses equal risks for an allergic reaction to be triggered.

For example:

Spraying an air freshener or perfume or a scented chemical agent in the individual's immediate presence who is sensitive to the product will bring on the allergic reaction from inhalation of the airborne particles or from making direct contact with the agent through the skin. The membrane of the eyes is also a point of contact many fail to recognize as the membrane of the eye is permeable and absorbs the allergens present. This is the reason that an affected person experiences their eye lids to swell, their eyes start to burn, the whites of their eyes become bloodshot and eyes start to tear up during and following the exposure incident. Air born allergens also enter the person's various body cavities such as the nasal passage and through the mouth which explains the swelling and constriction of the breathing passage as well as profound swelling of the lips and tongue following exposure. 

A secondary exposure is when a person comes into contact with allergens after the scent chemical or spray has been previously released where the residue of the agent remain in the air or settled on surface areas that the person comes into contact with later on.

Many without scientific background fail to recognize how such secondary exposures can happen and continue to pose an equal if not greater risk to the health and safety of the individual who holds a scent sensitivity. Hence, offering a person a hepa filter being placed at their place of work or residence is hardly a reasonable accommodation solution to prevent another allergic reaction from happening if the allergens continue to be sprayed or are used in areas that the person comes into contact. 

To help identify the manner in which primary and secondary exposures happen let's examine the transference cycle of a scented chemical agent and how the residue continues to trigger an allergic response with debilitating and harmful effects on the person's health and safety. 

For example:

Direct Exposure:

A deodorizing chemical solvent (e.g., odour eater or air freshener) is sprayed into the air at an office building and in or around the office space in the presence of the person. The individual with the scent sensitivity is directly exposed to the spray's chemical agents by inhaling the particles from the air and also absorbing the allergens through their skin, eyes, mouth, throat as particles settle on and around the person and on their personal effects. The person also continues to touch and use surface areas that are covered with the residue typically non-visible to the naked eye. Even after leaving the contaminated area with scents appears to be a wise solution is not sufficient to mitigate against continued exposure as the residue and the allergens of the chemical scents continue to be on and around the person resulting in further re-exposures referred to secondary re-exposures. 

Secondary Exposure:

Separate from secondary re-exposure is also secondary exposure where chemical scents sprayed near or on surface areas in the person's absence still continue to pose a significant real risk of an allergic reaction to the individual at a later time who returns to the site and is exposed to the residue remaining in the air and also on surface areas.

The residue and its allergens continue to be breathed in and absorbed by the skin until the person removes themselves from the area and also washes the residue off their skin and hair including off their clothing, shoes and other personal effects that were exposed to the molecular scent particles that continue to prevail as airborne and surface allergens. 

For this reason to accommodate a person with particular scent and odour allergies the only effective and sure mode to avoid them from suffering another allergic reaction is to avoid use of such scents and chemical agents. 

It is also a misconception to rely on the regulatory standards that claim a particular solvent or chemical agent are safe to use based on rigorous health and safety standards. While a chemical agent in a scent might be manufactured according to specific guidelines and proportionality that does not constitute safe exposure to those who hold an allergy to that scent or odour where even the smallest exposure deemed safe for the general public still exposes them to suffer severe allergic symptoms that are debilitating and prevent them from having unrestricted access to areas that are treated with said chemical scents. 

Allergic symptoms typically reported by the individual following exposure to a scent or odor that they hold a sensitivity towards include: 

  • headaches 
  • dizziness, light headedness 
  • nausea 
  • fatigue 
  • weakness 
  • insomnia 
  • malaise 
  • confusion 
  • loss of appetite 
  • depression 
  • anxiety 
  • numbness 
  • upper respiratory symptoms 
  • shortness of breath 
  • difficulty with concentration 
  • skin irritation 
According to the Canadian Centre for Occupational Health & Safety (CCOHS) and various medical journals an individual who holds environmental sensitivities (ES) is defined to hold valid medical restriction. Hence, under the Human Rights Code such individuals are entitled to equal access and reasonable accommodations at public, commercial, residential places including workplace because otherwise they are forced to give up their "normal" activities and right to fair and equal access by having to avoid future re-exposures to the scents and their allergens. 

Environmental Sensitivities (ES) include according to the Women's College Hospital:

"Environmental sensitivities (ES) describes a chronic condition whereby a person has symptoms when exposed to certain chemicals or other environmental agents at low levels tolerated by most people. The symptoms may range in severity from mild to debilitating.

ES has also been called multiple chemical sensitivity, chemical intolerance, environmental hypersensitivity, environmental illness, toxicant-induced loss of tolerance, and idiopathic environmental intolerance."

To read more about Scent Allergies and Environmental Sensitivities please refer to:

Public Service Commission of Canada: 

Canada Centre for Occupational Health and Safety:

Health Canada: 

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